Strengthening Your Readiness to Passage
“If you bring forth what is within you, what you bring forth will save you. If you do not bring forth what is
within you, what you do not bring forth will destroy you.”
- The Gospel According to Thom
How Long Does a Midlife Crisis Last?
Without help and support, it takes approximately 3 to 5 years. Changing a significant number of mindsets in a really in-depth manner can take even longer. Usually, a person will work through many false starts and painful side trips before they settle down in their life. Roughly a third of these people will not end up in a place that genuinely matches where they were hoping to go. Around a quarter of these people will repeat the crisis seven years later without help.
With teaching and patient guidance the severity of a midlife crisis can be resolved over six months to two years.
Advanced personal self awareness, change in mindset, the application of self-regulation techniques, taking personal responsibility for your situation and ensuring a stronger support system are the top five most significant factors in how fast the midlife change process will flow. The simple reason for this vast difference in success and struggle comes down to the many traps, social issues, and distractions exist for the average person.
Strengthening Your Readiness to Passage
“Faced with the choice between changing one’s mind and proving that there is no need to do so,
almost everyone gets busy on the proof.”
- John Kenneth Galbraith
Being creatures of habit who exhibit behaviors that have been reinforced and rewarded, humans commonly resist change. When attempts changing one’s persistent actions are engaged, the replacement actions typically develop in a hesitant, slow and inconsistent manner. Rarely do we witness a single moment of inspiration followed by a permanently successful morphing to a new behavioral repertoire. Once present, newly acquired actions are fragile; fully exposed to circumstances that could result in their collapse. For most individuals, change is a prolonged and gradual process with the following stages being evident:
Strengthening your interest or willingness to undergo a change in your mindset and behavioral patterns. Reflecting (without judgment) on past problems, issues and crisis's provide a solid foundation for opening the mind for learning. This phase is known as the “pre-contemplation stage”.
Curiosity about other ways of behaving, and consideration of whether demonstrating those other ways is desirable and accomplishable. This phase is referred to as the “contemplation stage”. - Deciding, based upon consideration of the pros and cons of changing one’s ways, that the adoption of another moral/ethical/value/behavior code is a better life path to follow.
Preparation for undertaking change, perhaps with some small initial attempts at demonstrating the new ways. This phase if called the “preparation stage”.
Accepting feedback and diligent engagement in demonstrating personal change actions. This undertaking is known as the “action or passage stage”.
As you become more accomplished, and supports are solidified, you enters the “maintenance stage”. - “relapses” or a return to the earlier ways of behaving, are not uncommon. They are viewed as an expect part of the change process for many people.
Helping You With Midlife Crisis
A midlife crisis is the attempt to restart life to better fit a person’s heart. Due to existing personal commitments, it’s a hard path to self-resolve the inner-conflict a person’s feels.
Many times a person in midlife crisis will act confused or lost while trying to sort out the contradictions they feel and now have in their life.
Also many times a person is trying to improve their life while not understanding why they are acting in the manner they are.
This mixture of conscious to unconscious actions often makes a person in midlife crisis unpredictable. This also leads to the most dangerous midlife crisis symptom of denial. Confronting a person in the initial stages of midlife crisis will often invoke and reinforce strong statements of denial since some of their actions are unconscious.
Most often a midlife crisis is defined well into the process of change. People miss the initial subtle internal midlife transformation shifts that do occur. As a result, the process usually only becomes visible after drastic shift’s that scream a crisis. However, the process has started long before the visible midlife crisis symptoms appear. It’s possible to aid a person to discover how to define life to fit better to what makes them content and happy.
Care does need to be taken as often a person in midlife crisis will feel trapped and in a corner without options.
Contact us for help.